Perhaps it's this time of year where I feel reflective about my life. Or, maybe it's because I feel there are big decisions to be made in the next few months that could drastically alter the course of my life life. In either case, it seems that I am facing questions once again, like "what is my purpose? and "how am I using my passions and talents to give back in this world?"
It appears I am at another pivot point in life.
Pivot points, in my mind, are times of discomfort, challenge, or uncertainty that cause us to change the way we view the world. On the simplest level, we as humans seek happiness and want to avoid suffering. But it's often in those uncomfortable moments that we can gain clarity about how to best move forward.
There have been many pivot points that have made me who I am today... like when my father passed away, when I broke my collarbone and chose to step away from college, and when I took the first yoga class that got me hooked.
Today, I'd like to share two pivot points, and the lessons that came from them.
The first of these is when I was in my early twenties and I was introduced to natural medicine. At this time, I was studying kinesiology--how the human body moves--and was learning how to test and restore balance to things like blood pressure, heart rate variability, and muscular strength. I was weight lifting 5 days a week and training to be a slalom waterskii competitor. So, I figured I was incredibly healthy.
This view of myself drastically changed when receiving my results from the doctor. I had stress indicators that determined I was 40 years old on the inside, despite my youthful, chronological age. Most of this was due to mental and emotional baggage (like stuffed anger at losing a father).
The lesson from this one encounter: my heart and mind play a much larger role in health than I was ever taught in school.
From this experience, I was led to study emotional kinesiology, metaphysics, natural medicine, and heartmath... much of which has led to the development of the products on this site, with the intention of passing on those tools to keep you mentally and emotionally in balance.
The second pivot point was when I lost my best friend in a matter of minutes. It wasn't that she passed away, although that might have been easier to cope with over time. It was the kind of ending in a relationship when two people are not on the same path at the moment, and someone had the courage to say so aloud.
This kind of ending caused me to change the way I viewed myself and my relationships for the past decade. It caused me to focus only on what was really meaningful in my life, and let go of all of the other things that were not in alignment with that. And, it caused me to re-evaluate how I approach the people in my life now.
The lesson: Listen more, and have the courage to let things go when they do not serve me any longer.
So, this holiday time I am reminded--and I hope you are, too--that your heart and mind play a huge role in how you experience life.. and that you have the power to release anything that is causing you pain. And, in the spirit of reflection, I invite you to answer these same questions for yourself that I have been pondering today, like:
- Where can I allow more love into my life?
- Where have i been holding back?
- Am I taking time today to be still?
- How can I listen more, and best show up for those that mean the most to me?
- How can I take action on my passions?
It is my hope, that with these thoughts, you feel a sense of joy, purpose, and clarity at the Christmastime, and in the new year to come!