This week of purposeful choice-making has been a powerful reminder in my ability to stand through all circumstances of life with confidence.
Many times, I decide to hold my tongue and filter my disagreements with others--simply allowing them to hold their beliefs (without judgement) and allowing a smooth conversation to be the path of lease resistance in the moment.
Since my decision to live more vulnerably this week--truthfully and courageously--I'd like to take a moment to challenge something from the Brene Brown talk yesterday.
(If you haven't yet watching the 20-minute video by her on vulnerability, I highly recommend you do so today).
In it, she talks about us as humans being hardwired for struggle... that we have an inner knowing to be able to deal with tough situations that come our way.
My disagreement with her really is nuanced... perhaps even a simple shift in how we might view this concept.
I believe us as humans, are actually hard-wired for joy, for love, for expansion, and for ease.
Now, when I say hard-wired, I mean our energetic blueprint.
From my perspective, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Said another way, we are energetic in nature, constantly connected to a broader, non-physical aspect of ourselves. This invisible side of us is always there, guiding us on this journey through life.
This inner being, or spiritual guidance, or soul, or whatever you want to call it, is always connected to the power of all that is.
Consider that for a moment... connected to the POWER OF ALL THAT IS!
My mind can't even fully wrap around that, but I know it's huge!!
This spiritual self does not not, or recognize, struggle. It simply stands in the place of appreciation for who I am, where I am going, and that how I get there can be far more coordinated (with ease) than I could ever imagine.
Thankfully, this energetic blueprint is accessible to me at all times. It really is the essence of who I am, and knows that it can partner with the many cooperative components of the Universe to bring my ideas into reality.
However, I think we've been taught that life is hard (by many of those around us) and that in order to feel worthy, we have to struggle to get what we want. We've been taught that the end result is somehow more beautiful or valuable or deserved if we struggled to get there.
Today, I'm opening up the idea that we really are wired to experience a sense of ease through life. We have the capability to look at situations in our life--that we might call good or bad--and be able to sort through the contrast of it and move on with a better understanding of who we are.
And because we have this connection to an incredible source of power via our spiritual nature, we know if we're tapping into that ease if we are experiencing positive emotions.
If negative emotions do arise, it's because I've forgotten to trust that my life can flow effortlessly, that my spiritual nature knows all is well in any given moment. It's like I'm seeing the world through different eyes than my energetic blueprint. Negative emotions can also indicate that I am simply making things harder for myself; thinking that I might just have to struggle to make things happen.
I know that this inner blueprint for ease gives us the capacity to travel more lightly through all experiences, and know that even if the road is a bit bumpy, I have the ability to be joyful, powerful and gracious through it all.
Here are the questions that helped me reflect on the past week. Now, viewing them through the lens that I am wired for ease, I know that the habits I am changing can really shift without much effort.
1. What new experiences did I have this week as a result of my new choices?
- This week I felt a sense of peace heading to work
- I experienced a sense of clarity at the office
- I had meaningful connections with my friends
2. How did I feel making those new choices?
3. What habitual routines have I created in my life?
- I've definitely returned to my morning routine to get me centered for my day
- I've had more energy to work on family business items--like cleaning and organizing the house--in the afternoons after work
4. What habits or choices are serving me, or adding to my ability to feel good?
- practicing golf
- morning yoga
- connecting with friends via email or text in a timely manner
5. What habits or choices might I life to change over the next few months or year?
- Set aside time on Sunday afternoons to prep/cook for the week
- take quiet time to stretch/meditate before bed
- bi-annual visits to the dentist
- weekly dates with Steve
What did you find out about yourself this week?