I just finished up with a golf lesson today in which I was hitting the ball really well.
I've been playing for about two years now, and find this game incredibly addicting and humbling all at the same time.
Originally I started because Steve thought it would be a fun activity for us to enjoy together (which it is!)
And while he was right about us having fun traveling, trying out numerous courses, and enjoying nature through it all, he had no idea that this sport would soon become a serious passion of mine.
To be honest, I had no idea of this either.
I started taking lessons from the beginning, because I knew that this is a technical game and I wanted to have a strong foundation with which to start.
Thanks to the help of my coach, and now dear friend, Jennelle Wroge, I've made great strides in my game thus far.
However, despite the initial progress, the past few months have been a return to some very simple basics I thought I had mastered 12 months ago.
Now, before you golfers go rolling your eyes at my lofty expectations, you should know that I'm a bit of a perfectionist and have really, really high standards for myself in everything I do.
That being said, this slowing down of my pace has really reminded me of some of the most basic concepts about life with relation to momentum.
These include some of the following:
- Momentum is all about building strength, energy, and power as time passes
- Momentum grows (on any given subject) when you place your thoughts and energy there
- The clues to knowing in which direction you are building momentum are your emotions
- Positive emotions indicate momentum heading in the direction you desire
- Negative emotions indicate momentum heading in the direction of unwanted desires
- When you notice momentum building on unwanted things (clues of which are negative emotions), switch back to a neutral gear.
- Eventually momentum of your thoughts turns into the actual experience of them. Said another way, your thoughts eventually turn into things
I use golf as a great example of this because I built great momentum initially. I had the intention to be a skilled, competent golfer who could break 100 my first year, and 90 in the next (both of which have been accomplished, by the way!)
I also put my attention on these goals by:
- taking regular lessons
- practicing a few times a week
- playing at least one a week
- watching golf tournaments on the weekends, and
- nerding-out on psychology of golf books
I knew I was building momentum in the right direction because I was excited about learning. I was thrilled to make new friends, visit new places, and acquire a new skill.
Now, during a tournament this summer, I "lost my swing."
This reminds me of the movie, The Legend of Baggar Vance." If you haven't seen it, I highly recommend it (even if you're not a golfer yourself).
The response to losing my swing would naturally be, "well, Kym, where'd it go?"
But that's besides the point.
I knew I was stunted in my game because I was feeling frustrated on the course. I felt that my swing was out of sync, and my shots were all over the place as a result. I knew I was building momentum in the wrong direction.
This led me to obvious, and really important reminder, head back to a neutral emotional place. When out on the course (yes, I still went out because I'm not a quitter), I would focus on the beauty of nature. I would appreciate my friends, and I definitely would not keep score.
From this neutral place, I knew I could then start to build momentum back in the direction of my intentions... back to the place where I play well (albeit not perfect), and most importantly enjoy the game.
And, I didn't mention it before, but I crushed it on the range today!! It was a perfect example that from a neutral place, you can start to build momentum in a positive direction again.
Now, I'm ready to apply these ideas about momentum to my other goals and dreams.
I'm ready to see where I'm building momentum in the direction I want to head... and perhaps look at others through the lens of curiosity, rather than criticism, if I haven't quite had my goals actualize.
Now I know that I can simply shift gears, reduce the pressure on myself, and go back to having a lot more fun in this whole creative process called life.
If you're joining me on this Awaken your Purpose Mastery Course, you might just want to ask yourself:
- Is there clarity in my intentions/goals/dreams (in all areas of my life)? If more is needed, use the Direct your Course Activity from Week 5.
- In what ways am I using my attention to add momentum to these intentions/goals/dreams?
- In what ways are my emotions giving me clues about that momentum currently being created?
- Where do I see momentum building, in a good way?
- On what topics might I need to downshift and head back to neutral?
t's the start of week 7, which is the third week of module 2 (Direct your Course).
Week 5 focused on Intention--adding clarity to the desires and dreams that are within us all.
Week 6 allowed a